There are different opinions about conflicts, some of them are given below. Read them out and discuss
1. A conflict is a devastating experience for any person.
2. A conflict is an integral part of social life. It helps to sort out problems in friendship and give a fresh start to it.
3. Conflicts always damage friendship and hurt friends’ feelings.
4. It’s better to avoid conflicts in friendship if you don’t want to end up breaking up with your friend.
5. True friendship has no room for conflicts.
6. Conflicts in friendship are natural, they give you a chance to understand your friend’s needs and improve your relationships.
7. Conflicts reveal real traits and attitudes of your friend, they uncover the whole truth about your relations.
Section 2 Reading
Read the article from a youth magazine and pick out the ways how to deal with difficulties in friendship.
Even the best of friends argue. It’s natural - especially during your teenage years when both of you are coping with all kinds of changes. If you do fall out, it’s better to talk about what’s upsetting you rather than let bad feeling build up. If you can talk things through and finish the fight with a laugh, then no harm is done. It’s only when you take away resentment or bottle up anger from an argument that your friendship is damaged.
Try to put forward your viewpoint in a calm and rational way – if you are annoyed about something, let your friend know. In the same way, if you’re in the wrong, admit it – never be too stubborn to back down when you’re at fault. What would you rather lose, an argument or a friend?
Best friends often spend hours on end talking about boys or girls . Before either of you at the dating stage, this can be brilliant fun - but when one of you actually has a boyfriend or a girlfriend, it can be a different story. When you start seeing a new boy or a new girl, it’s natural to think and talk about him or her a lot, but remember, you friend may not find him / her as fascinating as you do! Don’t push your friend into second place because of your boyfriend or girlfriend. If your friend feels she or he has been ditched, she / he will be hurt – and just might not be waiting patiently to fill the gap when Big Romance has fizzled out. If you are the ione feeling left out, then talk to your friend and explain how you are feeling. Don’t press your friend for loads of juicy details about the relationship. If he/ she wants to talk, fine – but this may be the one time where friends don’t want to share everything.
A friendship that only has room for two people can be a bit overpowering. If you see other girls or boys as a threat to your relationship, then things re strong and healthy to start with. Don’t cling to your best friend – if you are possessive and jealous, you may end up driving him/her away.
A good relationship can be shared with others without either of you being threatened - if you’re really close, then no outsider will be able to break you up. If the worst happens and you lose your best friend to someone else, then the chances are the two of you were drifting apart anyway. Try not to blame anyone – if you can stand friendly with everyone concerned there’ll be much less hurt around.
However close you’ve been to someone in the past, there’s no guarantee that things will stay that way forever. During your teens, you are changing all the time – your interests, opinions and attitudes can all change, and the things you once enjoyed may seem childish. Friendship don’t always last through teenage years – it’s inevitable that some friendships will drift apart.
Watching a friend change into someone you may not even like can be very hard. If you notice that a friendship is drifting, then don’t ignore it, say so – you may be able to work together at staying close. If you can’t salvage things, then try to part on good terms. Hating someone because they have changed is a waste of time – OK, sometimes you’ll end up hurt, but don’t waste energy in feeling bitter.
Friendship can falter when one person moves away – but if you’re determined, you can stay close. Letters, mails, phone calls and cards all help to show you still care, so that when you meet up again you can pick up where you left off. You gather new friends all the time as you go through life, and it’s just natural to let some go. If your friendship is strong enough, though, it can survive. Friends forever? If you want to, and if you work at it, you can be.